When you have children, you never really give too much thought to how your relationship might change with your husband. Once you had lots of free time, although you probably didn’t realize it then! Now you feel as if you are running around and chasing your tail all day long. Your marriage and your relationship with your partner are important, so how can you ensure that you maintain a strong, unbreakable connection, even through the challenges and obstacles that lie in the world of parenting?
Don’t Set the Bar Too High
Nobody’s life is perfect, and if you strive for perfection, you will be sadly disappointed as it does not exist. Not setting the bar too high is all about enjoying the relationship you have with your partner and about making memories as both a couple and a family. Setting unrealistic expectations will affect you and your relationship and can often cause more harm than good. So, try to be grateful for what you have and keep all of your blessings in the front of your mind.
Speak to a Specialist Therapist or Counselor
Do not be afraid to share your thoughts and feelings, and never hold in your emotions. Holding in or not talking about minor issues and problems can lead to situations quickly escalating. But it is imperative you communicate in a non-confrontational way. So, when you need a little help with clear, open, and transparent communication, it is time to visit a reputable San Diego Therapist who can help you reconnect with your partner and help you communicate more effectively. Quite often, a therapist can help you see things in another light or from a different viewpoint that you may not have even considered before. It’s nice to have a non-biased opinion.
Useful Tip: Try and have a date night without the kids at least once a month, as this will give you a chance to be yourselves and will allow you to enjoy each other’s company without being driven to distraction. We always feel that our date nights help keep our relationship fresh and fun.
Remember to Have Fun
Being a parent is a serious role, and quite often, it can change your personality or character. When you are serious about looking after a little one, it can become all-consuming, which is when problems in a marriage can occur. Remembering to have fun and enjoy each other’s company is important for all married couples to remember and embrace. It’s fun to let your goofy side out!
Relive and Share Old Memories
No matter how long you have been together, you will have memories that you made and shared together before children came along. Reliving these memories help you remember why you fell in love in the first place and all the wonderful times you have had together. Life has changed since having children, and it is fun to look back on the evolution of your relationship. When you look back fondly and share memories, you reinforce your connection.
Plan Out Your Future
Looking forward to the future, planning out what you will do as both a couple and as a family is one of the best things to do when you can catch a few minutes free. Life goes by very quickly. Having time to reconnect about life goals, financial plans, career objectives, and parenting approaches can help you stay on the same page and strengthen the bond you share.